Depending by which standards you measure life from - I could say that 2018 was a horrible year.

I had people come into my life that caused me such deep pain that I am still learning how to cope and move forward.

I had situations that stretched me further than I ever thought possible.

I saw things in people that I wish I could unsee.

2018 had so many plots twists the best fiction writer couldn't have wound this plot together.

As 2018 is coming to an end I find that I have two choices.  I can drag this "horrible year" into 2019 or I can change my perspective.

I do not look at 2018 as a horrible year.  I have learned so much about myself and where my place is in this world.  I would have chosen to learn the lessons another way, but unfortunately the easy way is usually not the best way.  

I had a situation in 2018 that changed me - it through me for a loop that I wasn't expecting and was not prepared for.  I didn't know how to feel, I didn't know how to cope or move forward.  It broke me and shook who I thought I was to my core.

So how do I move forward for 2019?

Easy!  No actually it's not easy, there are not a magical amount of steps that will make it all shiny and new.

As with anything that has the greatest rewards is the amount of effort you put in to make it a success.

I am choosing that my 2019 will be a success story to the lessons I have learned in 2018.  (I am sure that 2019 will have new lessons for me to learn😊 )

I have a saying for my experiences in 2018.  Years ago I made the choice to stop looking at situation based on a good or bad scale.  Everything is a "character building exercise".  Each day there is something to be learned and to be gained.  Once you change your perspective, then your life situations start to look differently. 

Once the situations start to look different then you start to change your reactions and how you feel about life and your place in it starts to become clearer.​  And thankfulness and gratitude become a part of these experiences.

A few questions I ask myself on this last day of 2018:

1. What are the biggest lessons I learned about myself this year?
2. What brought me the most joy in 2018?
3. What steps can I make to move forward in 2019?

​I am looking forward to journeying with you in 2019!

It seems that in December the crazies set in.  I start to feel dizzy with all that is going on in our family.

This December I am trying to be intentional with how I invest my time and energy.  It doesn't always work out the way that I plan.  But I have found so much more enjoyment in this Christmas season than I have in years.

So how I have I chosen to be intentional?

1. It has started in our home.  This needs to be our safe zone.  We have started a few small but meaningful family traditions that we need to stick to.  Years ago we used to custom order our Christmas tree, a really full tall tree - we would get a personal phone call about our tree each year.  The tree company loved us.  One year as finances were tight we realized that this extravagance was not going to happen that year.  So we took our two daughters and our dog and went for a walk in the bush behind our home in search of the perfect Charlie Brown tree.  We usually find an average size one for our living room and then a couple of small ones for additional spots around our home.  With a smaller tree it takes no time to decorate and a less busy feel to it.  This year we were going to do something a little different and drive to the National Park and cut down a tree with their special fuel break program.  We soon came to realize that our family walk to get a tree was a tradition that we couldn't compromise on.  Our 16 year refused to go anywhere else to get a tree, she even told us even though she may seem grumpy when we do it she really enjoys it.  So you may not know that value that small traditions have to our children.
2. Another element that I have found important is lighting.  With the craziness of the season a peaceful environment is important.  I found great deals on lighting this year and I have placed them in various locations around our home and at night the lights dim and a warm glow fills our home.  I know this has made an impact on me and I believe in the environment in our home.  I am now trying to come up with ideas of what I can do to incorporate this into our home year round.
3. Also in creating a peaceful environment I have been staying positive.  For me this can be a struggle.  I have been listening to Christmas songs - mostly the jazzy station for a more soothing sound.  I have made time to sit with my daughters and watch Christmas movies.  I tend to the be the parents that runs around doing "stuff" and pops in every now and then to catch spinets of the movie.  This year I have been making tea and watching a whole movie!  - more memories of what my daughters will remember. 
4. Gift giving has been greatly reduced from presents to experiences.  What gifts are being given are handmade or local items.
5. Being intentional with my time.  I have made lists of different things that I need to accomplish and I have been actively working on them in an organized manner so that it doesn't take me hours away from our home.  This is something that is working so well that I need to continue this in the new year.  Errand lists, meal prep, family schedules - if organized well doesn't need to steal our time.
6. Creating excitement.  Do you remember when Christmas was so exciting as a child?  -  the anticipation and wonder.  Now with two teen daughters Christmas has changed, and that doesn't need to be a negative thing.  It is our new reality and I am choosing to embrace it.  We are driving to visit family this year and it is a really long drive.  One that we are all not looking forward to, but instead of letting those thoughts make it a horrendous experience I have been coming up with ideas for us to enjoy it and look forward to it.  Looking for the positives can only benefit a situation.

These are a few of the changes I am making this year.  So far they are working - this Christmas feels different.  I hope as a family we can agree at the end of the month that this was a December to remember.

​Just two minutes of your time can have an incredible impact.  

I am on a journey of learning.  My heart is ripe for life lessons.  I have become more aware of the needs that surround me each day.  I am not sure how I got here but I have to share a few things that I have learned.

The needs are great and we have a serious problem.  

Let me try to explain - society has become so inwardly focused that we have lost sight of what is around us.  In my analytical discussions I have concluded with all my earthly wisdom - that it all stems from the self-improvement industry that took over the book publishing world a couple of decades ago.  While improving yourself is not a negative action, not sharing the improvements with the world around you is.  The majority of the self-improvement books didn't include that chapter.

So what we see today is a society that is looking for the next thing to make them happy, for other people to make them happy, to buy the next trendy item to make them happy.  They are not going to find happiness in any of those locations.

What I have learned is that heart happiness comes from a two minute investment.

A couple of years ago I tried something different for lent, I decided to "give" instead of "give up".  You can read about it here.  That experience has never left the way that I look at relationships around me.

I see the needs around me and I want to help - but the needs are great and I am just me.  

I have friends that are traveling down some dark roads and through deep water and I wanted to add a little light and encouragement to their day.  So I began taking two minutes out of my day and investing in those that need support and strength.  I would pray for my friend and then text them a scripture picture.  

I could write all sorts of fancy words and quotes but nothing that I could text would bring comfort and support the way God's holy word can.

Finding two minutes is easy- sitting in the car line, one less scroll through social media or sitting down at the end of your day.  A short prayer and God's word will have a tremendous impact on those with needs around each one of us.  All of us have an opportunity to be the hands and feet and light of Jesus to the world around us.

I am so enjoying investing my time this way.  I am finding more two minute opportunites in my day and searching for more cell phone numbers to send messages to.  Many times I will be praying for someone and I word or scripture will come to mind and then I know what I need to send to them, many times I get a reply that says, "That is just what I needed to hear today." and that just makes my heart smile.  Our Father knows what they need and I am happy to send the text message for Him.

I created a board on Pinterest where I keep scriptures that I want to share and then I have saved them on my phone.  If you want a head start you can follow my board for options.  

Let's be an encourager to the world around us.  Think of someone that needs encouragement and invest two minutes of your time.  You won't regret it.

I have been traveling around and teaching journaling workshops - some would describe it more as a party.  However you look at it - it is fun!

It is an afternoon of learn new things about yourself, scripture, fellowship worship and food!  The number 1 response I have received about the "My Journey" journal is that they wished they would have started it years ago. 

No need to run away to a cafe in Paris (unless you really want to), the "My Journey" journal is a great place to start to get who you have been created to be and why you have been created for such a time as this.

I recently traveled to a community to lead a workshop and it was my favorite one so far!  Why?  Because it had teen girls up to Grandma's - to see the generations working together and getting to know each other was a beautiful sight!!!!  Seriously my heart exploded seeing all the open Bibles, pens and pencil crayons creating beautiful and washi tape being unrolled by the yard.  Some were creative, some were not :)  but everyone was getting involved and having a wonderful time.

The group of attendees from the church already decided to meet once a month to continue on the practice of "My Journey" journal and Bible Journaling.  My heart was so filled with joy and the smile on my face lasted the long drive home.

This event was also a great opportunity for a test drive with the teen journal, and the girls really liked it from what I heard from the girls that attended.  Here is a little more information on the teen girl journal:

I now have the 2018 "My Journey" Journal available for pre-order! 

This spiral bound 8.5 x 11 workbook gives you a place to find peace and gratitude as you spend time weekly writing your thoughts and heart messages. 
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I will have pre-orders open only until November 25th, then they will be available for shipping the first week of December.  So get your Christmas orders in!

Special bonus!  Join me on my Facebook page for a Facebook live on Friday, November 10th!  Be sure to "like" my page so that you will be notified when I go live!  It should be entertaining since I have never done one before!  :)

For anyone that purchases a 2018 journal will have access to videos posted in the members only section on my website, so be sure to register for your free account!  

There are so many exciting things going on, make sure to join me on Facebook and Instagram, and share the news with your friends.  I have worked through this journal for almost a year and I can't believe how much I have changed.  My thoughts are more positive, my attitude is more reflective than reactive now and my prayer life has flourished.  I am so excited to finally share this with the world!!!!!

I always feel like I am running ahead.  No matter how hard I strive to catch up and reach the goal I always seem to miss it.  This has me feeling so very tired  and worn out.

The phrase "Nothing changes if nothing changes" continues to run through my mind.  As I have been working through the "My Journey" Journal I have learned that it is my mind that needs to change.  I don't need to work harder or try to achieve more in life (that's a relief!)  Most of the goals that I have set for my life are unrealistic goals that I will never attain.  This mindset was stopping me from enjoying my everyday life.   Life is too short, I don't have any more time to waste.

My everyday life is my legacy.  What are those closest to me going to remember about me?  It's not the big accomplishments - it's the little things that I do for my family, it's the way that I treat those around me with respect and encouraging words.  It's the time I commit to praying with our daughters each night and sharing about their day.  It's the example that I set as I open my Bible to study and invite my family into that space to learn together.  It's sitting in the same room with my daughter drinking tea and reading a book.  

It is starting my day with prayer, asking that the Lord's will be done and seeking His will alone.

Join me this week to seek His will in our lives.  I'll warn you that it is easier said than done.  For me it is a constant battle in my mind to seek His will and not my own.  As I have been journaling about this over the past few weeks, I have discovered that I am living more intentionally and finding joy in my everyday life.  The time spent with my family has more purpose, opportunities that I never expected are presenting themselves to me and I feel a connectedness with the Lord that I have been longing for.

If you are joining me in this, give this post a "like" below.  I would be honored to pray with you and for you, just leave a comment or send me a private message and let me know.  We can do this together, life is never a journey that we have to travel alone.