2019 has been a year.......
After writing about my journey in 2018 I thought it was important to take some time to think about my journey in 2019.
I find too often that I let my experiences control my life and I forget that I don't have to allow that to happen. 2018 threw me for a big loop and I allowed it to get out of control. It took a trip to the ER in September for me to push pause, slow down and really take a look at my path and current direction of my choices.
I have always enjoyed journaling and I created a weekly journal that I can use as a form of reflection and personal guidance. It has been a good exercise for me, I am not always dedicated to it, but every time I find my way back to that journal I am thankful for the time and energy that I choose to give to it.
So what has my 2019 journey taught me?
I have learned to focus on what is really important to me.
My family is so important. I didn't quite realize this until I saw the breakdown and struggle of families in our circle of friends. My job is my job, it doesn't come before time with my family. I will dedicate to it what I need to in order to fulfill the requirements, but I will not give it more than it needs. Too often I was answering emails and phone calls at home during my "family time". I do not need to be a member of several boards and committees. I took the emails off my phone, I put my phone away when I come home and I choose to be present with my family when I am home. My daughters are in grades 11 & 12, I don't have a lot of time with them while they are living at home. A new reality of parenting is right around the corner, I am going to enjoy this time and be the Mom they need right now in this time of their lives. This is a decision that I will never regret, I believe that by building into this time now will only further our relationship after they go out into the world.
Not only am I building into my daughters but also my husband as well. How often I see couples struggling after their children have moved out. Years are spent building into our children, while our marriages have been set to coast and then when the children are gone building their own lives we don't know how to relate to our spouse. Then we feel like our marriage is breaking down - when in reality it has been breaking down for years because you haven't been building into it.
My family is built on my relationship with my husband. We choose to be married to each other and build a life together and watch it grow and flourish, then we added our daughters to that relationship so that it can become fuller. How could I choose to neglect that which my life is built upon?
I have named my golf set "Peg" and my husband and I have found a great little par 3 course where we can go for a nice walk and hit a few golf balls - hopefully in the direction of the hole 😁 and we have a chance to spend 90 minutes talking and challenging ourselves each game. I always keep score, not to compete with each other but to see how we are doing from game to game, and I set the rule that we can never score higher than a 6 on a hole, I just give us a 6+. 😉
Priorities are important and we need to make sure that they are what fill up our lives. So many little things and things that are not necessary can start to invade but we have a choice. My family is important, they will be the ones that I am thinking about on my death bed. They are the ones that I think about when I fall asleep at night and when I wake up in the morning. They are priority.
I also know that to be what I need to be for them, means that I have to make myself a priority as well. I will share more about that in my next post, in this year of journaling I am going to be dealing with a lot of heart healing, purpose searching and goal making. You can find out more about that in my next post.
I am excited to take you on a journey on how to begin a weekly journal practice.
Journaling is about writing down your thoughts, feelings, memories, goals, and desires. It explores who you are, what you think and how you feel. Your written word allows you to get to know your true self.
The workshop will be held: Friday, November 15th, 7:00 to 9:00 PM at Perfect Balance Yoga, in Prince Albert, Saskatchewan.
Cost for the workshop is $50 which will include a journal.
This will be an intimate gathering, which will limit registrations.
To register call 306-960-7489 or click on the link below.
I love teaching journaling workshops. I basically tell everyone to throw out any idea that they have about journaling and start fresh.
There are so many different opportunities in journaling, one of them is to practice gratitude. Studies show that by doing this simple exercise daily you will have more alertness, enthusiasm, optimism, attentiveness, energy, more motivated, likeable, generous, helpful, more likely to volunteer and give back.
I think that those are all qualities that we would appreciate being described as - so my challenge for you is for the 31 days in August to share three things that you are grateful for. I even created a printable that you can print off for yourself to be accountable for the next month. Think about how beneficial this will be for you, your marriage and your family. Print off a few copies and share them with your children, your friends, even your husband and grow together on this journey of creating a grateful heart and life.
“Paper is to write things down that we need to remember. Our brains are used to think.” Albert Einstein
My husband is always reminding me to write things down. I tend to have millions ideas and thoughts running through my head continuously. Sometimes I can’t sleep because I am so excited about the things that are going through my head.
My husband told me that he heard a story about Albert Einstein and how he would write everything down. Anything that came to mind he would write down. He had many journals of thoughts and ideas that he kept record of. He did even memorize his phone number, if he needed it he knew where he wrote it down and he could look it up.
Why did he do this?
Because when you write down all the things that are running through your mind it opens your mind to new ideas and thoughts!
No wonder Einstein is known as a brilliant man!
So this is my new mission, I want to keep my mind open to new ideas and thoughts. I want to have the space to be creative and to give time and energy to the things in life that matter, not what I perceive as demanding my time.
I recently heard a story about a young lady who was preparing to graduate from high school. An honor student, worked part-time at the local library, volunteered at the animal shelter and helped with the children’s programs in her church. Almost every night of the week she had an activity going on. She had university all planned, knew her major and recently accepted into the school of her choice.
Why is she sitting in a counselor office? Why is she so depressed? During the first session with the counselor it didn’t take long to know that this talented and smart young lady was in a very serious emotional state. As the counselor asked questions the young lady had all the right answers, was genuinely polite and was a pleasure to talk with. Nearing the end of the first session the counselor casually asked what she likes to do for fun. The young lady just stared at the counselor with a blank look. So the counselor asked again with a different question, “What are your hobbies?” Again, a blank stare. The young lady that had the right answer for everything did not know how to answer this question. Why?
She had been prepping for her future for so long that she didn’t enjoy the journey a long the way. She didn’t have any hobbies and she rarely had time to just breathe.
While it is good to have ambition and goals to accomplish things in life. It is not good to make yourself so busy and structured that you do not have time to build into yourself. By having time to be still, to create, to write, to read - we discover who we are. We discover our unique gifts and talents.
Throughout the month of April we have been on a journaling journey, I am so enjoying this time to stop and reflect on my day, to write a few things about myself and share this experience with others.
As I am nearing the half-way point of this exercise I have been noticing the inadvertent example that I am setting for my daughters. Before my accident I was so busy! I was running most nights, either driving my daughters somewhere or I had something going on. My accident forced me to slow down, and I am so thankful! Last night I found myself just sitting and staring out a window watching the birds!
I want to encourage you to take the time to watch the birds, they are far more interesting than social media on your phone - it sets an example for your children that they desperately need.
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